Breast Cancer……the Exisional Biopsy…….

There is nothing like having an anxiety attack before going in for surgery.  To be more precise, a panic attack before an exisional biopsy.

Yep.  I was okay laying on the gurney and having the nurse ask me questions.  I was okay until she stuck the IV in and it finally hit me that I was about to be put under for only the third time in my life for something that is pretty scary.

Two hits of versed later, I don’t remember crap.  LOL

Which is a blessing.

I’m told I have stitches inside my breast where the “lumps” were removed and I’ve been super glued shut on the outside.  In all, it doesn’t look nearly as bad as when they did the stereotactic biopsy on the left one.  Very little bruising and moderate pain.  I can’t lift anything heavier than 10 pounds for the next 14 days, but I’ll deal with it.

It’s the funky velcro bra that’s truly annoying.

More later.

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Breast Cancer……

I woke up one morning, in August, noticing that my left nipple was leaking blood. I also noticed that it was starting to invert just a little.

I didn’t think too much about it. I figured I’d slept wrong and another cyst had popped. Having had fibrocystic breast disease for the last 20 years, it sounded logical………until i woke up with blood on my sheets the following morning and a tiny blood clot on the end of my left nipple.  When I scraped it off, like any other curious person, it leaked a more blood.  THAT was when I got worried and started thinking of every single thing that could possibly cause that kind of bleeding.

Being the coward and over-educated idiot that I am, I knew this wasn’t good.

I called the doctors office and made an appointment. They actually got me in sooner than I expected. After explaining everything to the doctor, she did the usual breast exam, felt a few lumps, and started ordering tests.

The first test done was an ultrasound of both breasts, then came the MRI of both breasts and then the ultrasound guided needle biopsy.  I won’t go into details because the name says it all.  My radiologist, who I’ve known for years, did the procedure but also did the right breast, as well, after the ultrasound showed some abnormalities in it.  It was a good thing he did because it pushed this whole fiasco into high gear.

Now, let me backtrack a little just for the sake of continuity and to make clear one thing…….there is no history of breast cancer in my family.  NONE.  NADA.  ZILCH.  NOTHING.

Other kinds of cancer like lung and throat, yes, but no breast cancer.

(PSA:  Get your boobs checked.  If you feel a lump get it checked out IMMEDIATELY because you never know.  This goes for guys, too.  Men DO get breast cancer so check for lumps, bumps, abnormal looking nipples and discharge, puckering and odd looking skin)

So………….Instead of waiting 3 weeks until my next appointment, I get called back into the doctor’s office less than a week after the testing.  I know right then and there that it’s going to be ugly and most likely cancer.  The joy of being a realist, I guess.

I go back to the doctor for the test results and got something I didn’t expect.  Nothing about my left breast which, in case you forgot already ( I wish I could), is the one I was worried about because of the bleeding.

Nope.  Instead it’s the right boob that has several papillary neoplasms.  And the doctor tells me it’s cancerous.

Well, me being the smartass that I am, I look it up.  This is what it says:

“Neoplasm:  Neoplasm is an abnormal growth of tissue, and, when it also forms a mass, is commonly referred to as a tumor. This abnormal growth usually but not always forms a mass. “

But it’s not cancerous.

However, since she said the word “cancer”, I started researching even harder and kept coming up with the same answers.

Then I went to the surgeon.

The surgeon was excellent.  She explained things clearly and concisely.  Answered all my questions and explained that a papillary neoplasm is NOT cancerous but it does need to be removed to prevent further problems.  I can understand that.  It makes perfect sense.  Why keep something in your body that doesn’t belong?  Get rid of the damn thing.

That will be the first surgery.

The left boob was another matter.  It is a DCIS grade 3.  Translated into English it means, Ductal Carcinoma in Situ.

“Ductal carcinoma in situ (DCIS) is the presence of abnormal cells inside a milk duct in the breast.

DCIS is considered the earliest form of breast cancer. DCIS is noninvasive, meaning it hasn’t spread out of the milk duct to invade other parts of the breast.

DCIS is usually found during a mammogram done as part of breast cancer screening or when there is another concern with a woman’s breast. Because of increased screening with mammograms, the rate at which DCIS is diagnosed has increased dramatically in recent years.

 While DCIS isn’t life-threatening, it does require treatment to prevent the condition from becoming invasive. Most women with DCIS are effectively treated with breast-conserving surgery and radiation.”  

It IS cancerous but, thank God, it’s extremely rare and is rated “0” for malignancy.  Which, for me, is a lucky break.  It is located solely in the milk ducts and, while I’ll have to have a mastectomy and a few lymph nodes removed, I get to keep my life.

And that, my friends, is the most important thing.

 

 

 

 

 

 

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America Doesn’t Need a King….

This is the United States. We do not elect kings nor do we bow down to any man, or his minions, claiming to be king, dictator or emperor.

We fought to obtain our independence from kings, monarchs and tyranny and to have freedom of religion.

We have a constitution declaring that all men are created equal. Not that one man is better than the other or that one man is worthy of being a king. That is what we fought long and hard against. And good men and women have died for that belief and for the Constitution for the last 240 years. Not for a monarch to be imposed, but to keep our republic strong.

The military does not swear allegiance to any one man. Not a president nor a king. They swear to uphold and defend the Constitution of the United States of America against all enemies foreign and domestic.

For priebus to make this statement* takes his worship of trump to an unamerican level. He did not misspeak. He was not misunderstood. He was not grammatically challenged. His statement of “a new king” is right up there with Omorosa’s statement about everyone bowing down to trump.

I, for one, will never, ever, bow down to any man who thinks he’s a king, disrespects and wants to eradicate parts of the Constitution, lies about everything and rants on twitter like a 13 year old bully.

I believe in the Constitution. I believe in this American republic and what it stands for. But a president who thinks he’s a king? NEVER.

 

*today, Reince Priebus of the GOP made a statement about a “new king”

http://m.dailykos.com/story/2016/12/25/1614438/-RNC-Declares-Trump-New-King-In-Creepy-Christmas-Message

http://thehill.com/blogs/blog-briefing-room/news/311799-social-media-erupts-after-gop-statement-about-new-king

 

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Wake Up America….

Certain people in this country better wake up to facts.

China and Russia are buddying up to Mexico.

China just stole an American oceanographic drone while the ship was in international waters.

Russia hacking emails and voting machine companies. And, most likely, the FBI.

Russia hacking the German election.

Putin doing a land grab of Japanese territory.

China building islands in Japanese territory.

Russia bombing Aleppo into the Stone Age.

Russia becoming best buds with the Phillipine president Duterte.

This is a short list of what’s happening in the real world. Don’t believe me? Do the research like I did.

Two countries empire building on two of our allies and trying to cozy up to another ally.

Trump was put in place because he agrees with what the Russians want; he wants to disband NATO, get rid of the UN, selectively back our allies only if they paid for our help, and doesn’t trust, and won’t listen to, his own intelligence community. Instead, this traitor praises the dictators and sees nothing wrong with what they’re doing. He’s put in place a group of rich incompetents who will benefit greatly from a war while the rest of us suffer and send our children to die on foreign soil.

He is weak and the dictators know it. They will, and are, taking advantage of that fact.

All of this is a prelude to war.

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My God, What Have We Done?

“Oh, what fools these mortals be.”                                                                    Puck from “A Midsummer Night’s Dream”, by William Shakespeare.

Congratulations America.

We have shown the world that hate, racism, disunity, misogyny and fear rule our once great country.

(announcer speaking)  Welcome to the new recession brought to you by Trump bankruptcies. We’ve got 6, lets do it to the country.

Yes, you could say I’m bitter about this election.  I expected so much more from the American people than this.  I expected them to be smarter than the lies trump spread and to reject the hate, racism and misogyny he spewed during his entire campaign.

What a let down.

What is more frightening is that Clinton won by the people’s vote but didn’t get the electoral votes she needed to grind trump into the ground.  What happened?  No one is sure……yet.

The latest to chime in is the ACLU.  They state that his immigration deportation plan violates the First, Fourth, Fifth, Eighth, and 14th Amendments.  They plan to take him to court over it.

Trump won by telling people what they wanted to hear.  He won by scaring the crap out of people.  He won by lying and distorting the truth.  He won by making promises that he may not be able to keep.

He says he’s going to cut taxes on corporations and the richest 1%.  Currently, corporations and the top earners in this country pay 34% in taxes.  Trump wants to cut that down to 19%. That’s a loss of 15% of tax revenue.

Now, think about this……who is going to pay for it? Who is going to pick up that 15% loss of revenue?

Who?  You will.  I will.  Every working person in this country will pay with higher taxes because trumps trickle down theory doesn’t work and never has.

I am convinced there will be a new recession.  Why?  Because trump wants to get rid of half a dozen trade agreements and certain tariffs.  Trade agreements with other countries benefit everyone as do tariffs.  To eliminate these agreements and raise tariffs is not always in this countries best interest.  Ask any economist about the necessity of trade agreements and getting along with other countries.  Not to mention putting a 45% tariff on goods from China (and a 35% tariff on goods from Mexico) will raise prices HERE for goods we buy every day.

He wants to do away with the nuclear accord with Iran.  Every single expert in our country and in the Middle East agrees that getting rid of that agreement would be dangerous for the world.  The only redeeming factor here is that trump would have to stay out of it since we weren’t the only major country to sign the nuclear accord.

He wants to do away with the Climate Change Accord that every technologically advanced country agreed to.  Why?  Because he thinks China “made it up”.  Plus, he owns stocks in oil and gas companies and has been loaned millions by a Saudi sheik.  Is this serving American interests?  No.  But it is certainly serving trump.

He wants to do away with NATO.  That leaves the field wide open for Putin to take back all the countries that regained their independence after glasnost.

And let’s not forget ISIS, or daesh as I prefer to call them.  They’re happy trump got elected.  He’s their new poster boy for the downfall of America.  They have learned how to use social media to their advantage and have advocated for trump.  And trump, with his anti-Islamic rhetoric, played right into their hands.  Inciting the hate and bigotry that daesh needs to survive and become stronger.

You see, daesh paid attention to his words.  And he played right into their hands.   And Putin’s.

And what about his temperament.  Venal, egotistical, vengeful, easily angered, spoiled rotten, uncaring about what he says, disrespectful….these are just a few of the things I saw come out of trump during the last 20 months of the campaign.  He ran a hate filled, fear filled, campaign and pandered to those with the most to lose if he won.

His first 100 days are going to be spent ripping down any progress we’ve made toward healthcare for everyone, equal pay and more.

This is not what a president should be.

 

 

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To Trump or Not to Trump 2……..

In my last diatribe, I described what I’ve seen with the current political candidates….one in particular being on the receiving end of my disgust.  And my disgust and loathing has only deepened over the last 2 weeks.

Ever since the first debate, more and more things have come out about Herr Trump.  And none of them good.

You have the Attorney General of New York State shutting down the Trump Foundation.  The reasons?  He never filed for charity status.  Never.   Add to that, the only group he’s ever donated money to was an anti-gay group.  And there’s still more.  He used funds donated to his foundation to buy 2 paintings of himself and to pay off myriad legal fees for the 3,500 times he’s been sued. Add this to the rest of his fraudulent (school, steaks, etc.) activities, and you have a very disgusting human being.

Now, comes the one that should disgust everyone and that I alluded to in the last post.

Sexual assault.

Yep.  First came the lawsuit for rape of a 13 year old.  This goes to trial in December and has 2 witnesses (besides the young woman) that will face trump as they state what happened.

Then came the  tape where he’s bragging about groping women’s genitals.  Bragging how, because he’s rich and a star, women will let him do anything he wants.  He doesn’t need permission.  He doesn’t even ask.  He just does what he wants.  The actual words he used are completely repulsive and won’t be repeated here.  (truthfully, I miss the days of the 7 words you can’t say on tv)

Next come the women.  Ten, so far, have come forward claiming he groped them and threatened them so they wouldn’t talk.  With another coming forward late today.

People are asking why they didn’t speak up sooner.  Why?  Ask any psychologist.  Anger, embarrassment, humiliation, fear of publicity, fear of being ostracized, fear of losing their job, and fear of not being believed.  Pick one or all.  Every woman groped by trump felt all of this and so much more.

Why are they coming out now?  Because trump threw down the gauntlet.  He denied he’d ever done anything like that.  He said this at the last debate when Anderson Cooper cornered him about the allegations.  Trump tried to change the subject but Cooper held his feet to the fire and trump started blustering, denying and deflecting.  Just like he always does.  That’s how you know he’s lying.

And he’s still denying it.  He even had the temerity to get a British man to lie for him.

This is what makes it even more heinous – trump denying he’s ever done it when he’s been recorded bragging about sexually assaulting women.  When he was on Howard Stern’s radio show he called his daughter “a piece of ass”.  Another time trump was on Stern’s show, he discussed his affairs and admitted he was a sexual predator when asked by another guest if he was or wasn’t.

In the last 30 years trump has also settled 20 sexual assault or harassment lawsuits out of court thinking no one will pay attention to them.  Even his first 2 wives said he raped them, even though they “down graded” (sic) it later to spousal abuse.

And everything I’ve said here is public record and can be found online.

Yesterday, he began blaming the women who have come forward.  He’s blaming Jewish people for destroying his campaign.  He’s blaming Clinton for putting the tapes out there.  He’s blaming the GOP for not supporting him.

What he’s not doing is taking the blame and owning it.  Trump has destroyed himself with his words and his actions.

He’s called Mexicans thieves, rapists and murderers.  He’s called Phillipino’s animals.  He’s called women pigs, dogs, slobs, whores and more.  He’s called African American’s stupid and worthless.  He’s called Muslim’s disgusting criminals, terrorists and that they should have special ID’s showing who they are.  He’s blamed Jews for destroying banking and finance.

To those of us older than 40, or who study history, this is reminiscent of a certain dictator who took over Germany in 1933 when he became Chancellor of Germany.

Hitler used the same tactics trump is using.  Muzzle the media.  Trump kicks out media from his rallies if they don’t agree with him or criticize him.  Make America great again is similar to the slogan Hitler used….Make Germany great again.  Promote a common enemy.  Hitler had the Jews, trump has Muslims.  Both…. Bash the unions.  Both…. Tell people to rat out others (trump did this at the last debate, telling Muslim’s to tell on other Muslim’s).  Both….. demeaned the disabled and mentally ill.  Both…..Threaten to jail opponents (trump said this to Clinton at the last debate).  And both have followers ready to intimidate, threaten, or possibly kill if asked.  Both….have their followers beating up media and “undesirables”.

The similarities are terrifying.

These are actual things that trump has done.  These aren’t made up comparisons.  This is actually happening NOW.  In this country.  At every trump rally and debate.  And it’s all on video for anyone to look at.

In recent days he’s even started breaking telepromters while his audience applauds.  He’s screaming that the election is rigged, that there will be a violent uprising if he isn’t elected.

He’s setting the stage for a civil war.

As Americans, we cannot allow this man to be president.  He thinks he can do and say whatever he wants, now, just because he’s rich.  Imagine the abuses he can perpetrate if he had the power of the presidency behind him.

The United States swore NEVER AGAIN to let a dictator rise to power.  Certainly NOT in this Republic.

NEVER AGAIN.  NEVER TRUMP.

 

 

lhttp://www2.dsu.nodak.edu/users/dmeier/Holocaust/hitler.html
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To Trump or Not to Trump……..

I’ve refrained from screaming about Trump in a blog, but enough is enough.

For those of us unlucky enough to have been born into a political family, or who are just politically minded or inclined, this year’s presidential race is anything but presidential.

On one hand, you have woman who has experience in politics and government, who has been villified her entire career as a working, adult woman.  A woman who has been a first lady, senator, and secretary of state. Someone who has worked with children and did something most of us wouldn’t do……stay married to a serial adulterer.

On the other hand, you have a supposedly successful billionaire who builds buildings, sells and buys real estate and has had nothing to do with politics or actual government……unless you count having to deal with city and county governments to get his buildings built.

This is where it gets to be “fun”. (And I use the term “fun” in the most ironic and sarcastic way possible).

Am I, and millions like me, tired of listening to Trumps rhetoric, hate speech, insults, demeaning speech about women, minorities and the disabled?  Are we tired of hearing him ask our greatest enemy to hack government emails?  Are we tired of his lies, exaggerations and innuendos?  Are we tired of listening to him deny what he’s said and done or trying to twist it so what he’s said and done doesn’t look so bad?

YES, WE ARE.  And millions of others are waking up to the hateful, narcisistic, sociopathic, egomaniacle moron that Trump truly is.

But this week was the final straw.  This man is not only a serial adulterer, he is a sexual predator, as well.

It’s not bad enough that he asked Russia to hack government emails.  Which happens to be a violation of National Security and Espionage Acts.  It’s not bad enough he’s lied about having ties to Putin.  He does. (the internet forgets nothing)  It’s not bad enough he eggs his supporters on when they scream “hang Hillary” or “shoot the bitch” and stands there smiling at them while it’s all being recorded for posterity (and for psychiatrists to analyze).

It’s not enough that he calls on his supporters to “second amendment” Clinton and others who are against him such as reporters.

Yes, you read that correctly.  I mention it so you remember   He’s telling people who already are violently disposed toward Clinton to “second amendment” her.  His spin is that he meant that the supporters of the 2nd amendment get out and vote.  That, my friends, is a crock of crap and we all know it.

The second amendment is about guns and the right to carry them.  It’s about a well armed militia. It’s about protecting our citizens.

The one thing it isn’t, is about voting.

To call on already mentally unstable people (remember the people screaming to hang her or shoot her?) and say that they could “maybe handle her” is tantamount to calling for her death.

Yes, I said it.

A political candidate is calling for another candidates death.  Out loud.  On t.v..  In front of hundreds in his audience and millions on live television.

This is totally unheard of in this country.

This is completely un-American.

This is insane.

And this is how Trump works.  He plants things in other people’s minds and lets it fester.  Just like he planted the false idea that the election will be rigged.  Just like he planted the false idea that Clinton chose the dates of the debates.  Both lies but both lies designed to inflame his followers and make him look like the big man he isn’t.

When you call the people of the Phillipines, who are our allies, “animals”, and all Mexicans (except those he likes, of course) thieves, rapists and murders, and women “pigs”, you think others will pay for your wall, or expect politicians from other countries to donate to your campaign (which is illegal as hell in ALL countries) you are beyond a spoiled, rich, entitled, brat.

You are a dangerous, delusional, narcissistic psychopath.  You have empathy for no one or nothing.  If it isn’t done your way, by your rules, you won’t play.

This grown man is still a five year old who, when thwarted, will take his ball but he won’t go home.  Instead, he’ll malign you with the worst lies and get others to do his dirty work.  He is an abusive tyrant wannabe and, if elected, he will destroy this country.

Trump is everything this country shouldn’t be.  Ever.

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Unconscious Rape……What Are These People Thinking???

Recently, an Oklahoma judge said that it’s “okay” for people to be orally raped if they’re passed out drunk.

To say that you have to be awake for it to be rape, but it’s okay if you’re unconscious…….well, it must be okay ‘cuz the judge said so.

Excuse me, you say. This can’t be true.

Sorry, but it IS true and it’s being lived in Oklahoma.

This judges decision does nothing more than legitimize the rape culture that has taken root in this country and allow the blaming of the victim instead of the rapist.  It goes along with Brigham Young University punishing, and expelling, girls for speaking out about their rapists.   Again, punishing the victim instead of punishing the rapist/criminal.

I find it ironic that this same judge hasn’t done a written opinion because he doesn’t want it to be cited or have his decision used in any other court case.   To me, this proves that he knows his decision is a bad one that goes against common sense, morals, ethics and the law.

Here is the gist of the problem…..

The case involved a 16-year old girl who was drinking in a park with some others, and passed out. One of the boys “volunteered” to drive her home.

“Via Raw Story:

The boy later brought the girl to her grandmother’s house. Still unconscious, the girl was taken to a hospital, where a test put her blood alcohol content above .34. She awoke as staff were conducting a sexual assault examination.

Tests would later confirm that the young man’s DNA was found on the back of her leg and around her mouth. The boy claimed to investigators that the girl had consented to performing oral sex. The girl said she didn’t have any memories after leaving the park. Tulsa County prosecutors charged the young man with forcible oral sodomy.

But the trial judge dismissed the case. And the appeals court ruling, on 24 March, affirmed that prosecutors could not apply the law to a victim who was incapacitated by alcohol.

This makes no sense to me. First, that they would differentiate on the sole basis of alcohol. What about drugs? What if she mixed the two? How is it any less forcible oral sex because she was unconscious?

The prosecutor was plainly shocked.

Benjamin Fu, the Tulsa County district attorney leading the case, said the ruling had him “completely gobsmacked”.

“The plain meaning of forcible oral sodomy, of using force, includes taking advantage of a victim who was too intoxicated to consent,” Fu said. “I don’t believe that anybody, until that day, believed that the state of the law was that this kind of conduct was ambiguous, much less legal. And I don’t think the law was a loophole until the court decided it was.” To focus on why the victim was unable to consent, he continued, puts the victim at fault.

Others say the law is the problem, that it’s written in such a way that it allows for a loophole big enough to drive a penis through. While there are laws on the books to prosecute in instances where the victim is too intoxicated to consent to intercourse, there is no protection for forced oral sex. Apparently it’s only a crime in Oklahoma if the victim is aware that the act is being performed.”

This ruling should terrify every single one of us.  It opens the door to sexual assault of our mothers, sisters, aunts, daughters and friends.  It opens the door for anyone, male, female, trans, gay, lesbian, to be raped and have no judicial recourse because this one, lone, judge has decided it’s “okay” to rape the unconscious.

We all have the right to be safe in whatever you do, wherever we are and whoever we’re with.  Nor should one gender be punished for the crimes of the other.

Life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness aren’t just words on a piece of parchment.  They are one of the founding ideals of this country.  And, in courts like this, these guaranteed rights are being stripped away from each of us.

Slowly, but surely our safety, liberty and right to happiness is being stripped with decisions like this.  Decisions that promote misogyny and take away the rights that everyone should have are simply wrong.  Inalienable rights guaranteed by the Constitution of the United States are for absolutely everyone, not just the criminals.

 

http://www.upi.com/Top_News/US/2016/04/28/Oklahoma-court-oral-sex-not-rape-if-victim-is-unconscious-from-alcohol/3701461825704/

http://www.newser.com/story/224219/passed-out-victims-not-covered-by-okla-sodomy-law-court.html

http://www.womenslaw.org/statutes_detail.php?statute_id=6109#statute-top

http://edition.cnn.com/2016/04/29/health/brigham-young-university-rape/index.html

http://www.theguardian.com/society/2016/apr/27/oral-sex-rape-ruling-tulsa-oklahoma-alcohol-consent?CMP=Share_iOSApp_Other

 

 

 

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The Sun……

Is it just me, or does it seem as if the sun is “different”?

I noticed something about a month ago and couldn’t put my finger on it right away. It took a couple of days of sunshine for me to figure it out.

It’s just a little off. The sad part is, I can’t explain it any better than that.  I know it sounds crazy, but there it is.

I can’t tell if it’s the luminosity, the UV radiation, or something else. I just know it’s a little different.

Anyone, have any ideas?

There are several articles that did help to possibly explain it. It ran in a NASA article, a science magazine and in Huffington. It said that scientists had found a “hole” in the corona of the sun.

sun hole

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2015/01/05/sun-hole-nasa-earth_n_6416968.html

It’s larger now and it makes me wonder if this isn’t what is affecting my comprehension of sunlight.  The sun may, also, be rotating that hole straight at us.

sun hole size

Whatever it may be, the sun, to me, seems to be shining just a little bit differently these days.

 

http://www.nasa.gov/mission_pages/sunearth/news/gallery/20130618-coronalhole.html

http://www.space.com/25829-sun-square-hole-nasa-video.html

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Job Loss is a Thing of Joy…….

I lost my job last Friday.

No, it’s not a bad thing. In reality, it was a blessing.

I’ve spent the last 2 years and 9 months working for a person who didn’t pay his taxes, avoided paying many of his vendors, a person I had to lie for to people who called in and demanded payment for services rendered, back taxes and lawsuits, and who, periodically, couldn’t pay his workers. ( I haven’t had a paycheck in 4 weeks)

Why did I stay? I really have no clue. Probably a misguided sense of loyalty or just being too lazy to find another job. Still not sure about that! lol

Just a little background whining……….The last 3 months I wasn’t allowed to reconcile any bank statements, enter any repair orders, enter any income, or do a lot of the things an office manager does. All I could basically do was answer phones, schedule and rent out U-hauls (which I despised and which was sporadic), run errands, pass out the occasional band-aid and try to do payroll. The last month I wasn’t even allowed to put in bills.

Yep, it was a mess.

When I asked for office supplies, I was told I’d have to wait, we couldn’t afford it. Ok. I could see that. After all, I could check one out of 2 bank accounts and I knew money was tight. But I couldn’t file paperwork without file folders, right?

What does he ask me to do the last day? You got it. File the paperwork I haven’t been able to file for 3 months. When he asked my why, I told him I needed 3 boxes of file folders in order to start filing the new year’s vendors bills and to finish filing everything else. He walked out of my office in a huff. Later that afternoon, he said he was closing the business.

I knew it was coming. It just happened a month sooner than I thought. He tells me a certain person who is a good friend of his has bought the building (it was up for auction 3 weeks previously) and that his friend was going to use it for his business. Ok. Good.

Then he told me that the head shop guy was going to keep the shop open and run it as his own business.  Good again.  He told me how he hadn’t made a house payment in 3 months so he could pay us…. Not so good.

Then, he also told me that he was going to declare bankruptcy……..which I thought was better late than never. In my humble opinion he should have done that and a business reorganization over a year ago.

But, what do I know? I’m only the office geek. Not the owner.

Ah well. Enough complaining. It’s a joy to be out of there. I’m getting things done that I haven’t had time to do and I feel like the weight of the world has been lifted off my shoulders. I don’t have to worry about IF I’m going to get a paycheck. I don’t have to lie for my boss about where he is or when he’s going to pay people. I don’t have to take messages from the Feds, City and State about back taxes, liens and court dates. I don’t have to hear banks and loan companies threaten about past due amounts and lawsuits.

I AM FREE OF THE IS CRAP!!

Now, if I could just get my last 4 paychecks I’d be a happy girl.

 

 

(But I am wondering how much of what he told me is pure crap!  I’ll update when I find out)

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